Traveling with Family: Having Reasonable Expectations (and a Few Deep Breaths)

Ah, the promise of a family vacation! Sun-drenched beaches, exciting adventures, and… well, the same family dynamics you experience at home, just in a different location. I recently returned from a delightful (and occasionally chaotic) four-night multi-generational cruise. As I found myself taking a few deep breaths on my balcony – my go-to calming exercise – a familiar quote popped into my head:

"Your family is still your family – don’t expect them to act magical just because you’ve brought them to a magical place."

This gem is often shared among Disney vacation planners, but honestly, it applies to any family trip. Read it again. Let it sink in. It makes me laugh a little because it is so very accurate.

Let’s be real: vacations can be a pressure cooker. We’re all trying to relax, have fun, and create lasting memories. But throw in new environments, unusual schedules, and the close proximity of family members, and… well, things can get interesting.

My Balcony Revelation

On my cruise, I witnessed (and participated in) moments of pure joy: shared laughter, an unexpected morning rainbow, impromptu water slide races and heartfelt conversations. I also witnessed (and participated in) moments of… less joy. The weather that cancelled our shore excursion and disappointment that ensued, the pre-teen eye-roll at the evening show, the panic of a lost sea pass card, and the resulting feelings of annoyance. It was during one of these “less joyful” moments that I found myself on the balcony, practicing my calming breaths. And that’s when the quote hit me. My family wasn’t acting badly, they were just… being themselves. And that’s okay.

Tips for Keeping Your Sanity (and Enjoying the Trip):

1. Embrace Imperfection: Things will go wrong. The flight will be delayed, someone will forget their swimsuit, or a little one will have a tantrum. Accept it, laugh it off, and move on.

2. Schedule Downtime: Don’t pack every minute with activities. Allow for quiet moments, naps, or just relaxing by the pool. Everyone needs a break, especially on a busy trip.

3. Communicate Expectations: Before you leave, have a conversation about what everyone wants from the vacation. Lay out the plan and ensure everyone is willing to participate in planned activities. This helps avoid disappointment and ensures everyone feels heard.

4. Divide and Conquer: If possible, split up for certain activities. Let the teens go to the arcade while the grandparents enjoy a leisurely lunch. This gives everyone a chance to pursue their own interests.

5. Practice Patience and Flexibility: Remember, everyone is trying to have a good time. Take a moment to step away if needed. Don't be afraid to change gears when necessary.

6. Focus on the Positives: Don’t let a few minor hiccups ruin the entire trip. Focus on the good moments, the shared experiences, and the memories you’re creating. I like to remember how lucky I am to be on vacation at all!

7. Know Your Family's Triggers: Does your little one get cranky before naptime? Does your teenager hate crowds? Plan accordingly!

8. Hire a Travel Agent (Like Me!): A good travel agent can help you plan a trip that caters to your family's needs and preferences. We can handle the logistics, freeing you up to focus on enjoying your vacation.

   
   

The Bottom Line:

Family vacations are about creating memories, not achieving perfection. By setting realistic expectations, practicing patience, and embracing the inevitable chaos, you can have a truly wonderful time, even when your family isn’t acting like they’re in a fairytale. And if all else fails, find a quiet balcony and take a few deep breaths. You’ve got this!